Moving day. It seems that no matter how much you prepare or follow the must haves and guidelines of bloggers…moving day just sucks. So, I’m not going to tell you that this post will help you not have a crappy moving day. But, I hope that this post will make it at least a little less crappy. Continue reading “Let’s Move It: Moving Day”
Here is the next Behind the Blogger post! From my brother, Michael. Continue reading “Brother Behind the Blogger”
Hello! Here is the next Behind the Blogger post. This one is from my dad. The below picture is from my baptism. 🙂
Describe me in three words!
Integrity, Real, Compassionate
In what ways do you think I’m like you?
Perfectionist, yet do not expect perfection from those around you. And not like you? A few years back, more introverted and a tendency to hold things inside. After a year of college, much more likely to speak your mind. Probably, more innovative and willing to try new things.
Is there anything that you wish had been different between us―or that you would still like to change?
This can be a hard question. The reason I state this is that I like who you are as a person and value our relationship. I think our relationship is somewhat based on our experiences (many good, some challenges). I know I failed many times as a father (pretty much all do), but think we have always had an honest and overall positive relationship. Go clean up your room! ☺
How did you choose my name?
We were attempting to decide between Sara, Lauren, and Kinsey. We had friends expecting around the same time, that named their daughters Lauren or some variation of Kinsey. So we went with Sara, without an “h.”
What three things do you think of the most each day?
Family, Living my life in a way that honors God, Self-examination on how to improve in handling situations.
What is the weirdest thing you have ever eaten?
Not sure if weird, but for sure a little off. Shortly after your grandparents adopted me, we took a trip to Luby’s. I ate my food and then started walking around eating all the food left behind on the surrounding tables. My parents convinced me that it was not my last meal and encouraged me to stop eating.
Are there any foods that you absolutely detest?
What is a funny habit that you have?
When I had hair, use to twirl my hair in a knot when I was concentrating on a challenging matter.
Has Starbucks ever spelled your name wrong on a cup?If yes, what’s the craziest way that someone has spelled it?
What is your favorite breed of dog? If you don’t have a favorite breed, describe the characteristics of your ideal dog (or cat)!
My ideal dog is the one (two or three) I have at the time. We have had big, small, spastic, and calm dogs. Kind of like people, they have diverse personalities. Also, we have had some interesting cats with unique personalities, some pretty intense.
What is your favorite holiday and why?
All of them, translates to time with family.
What’s the best vacation you’ve ever been on?
It has been a while since I have been on a vacation. As long as I get to slow down a little and hang out with family, it is a perfect vacation.
What is your proudest accomplishment?
Helping others to achieve their goals. With all the kids, they have had different challenges or lack of confidence in certain areas. Too be able to stand behind them until they can stand on their own. So rewarding to see the smile. Also, I thought it was when I went through a long war to get my first blackbelt, but it was not near as rewarding as training others until they stood as a confident blackbelt.
What is your most embarrassing memory?
Think I have had a few of those over the years. One stands out. It was my senior year in high school. Three of us decided to go out on a triple date. A car in front of us drove off the bridge. Trying to make this short, but basically the car was starting to catch on fire so we had to climb down and pull the people out the car and carry them to a safe spot. Once we got everything settled, we moved on to meet with our dates. We went out to eat. It was not until the end the dinner that I realized that the back of my pants were split up the middle. Although it was for a good reason, it was pretty embarrassing to be walking around for several hours and then realize the condition of my pants.
What is your favorite family tradition?
On holidays, we would attempt to put together 5,000 piece puzzles by the end of the day. Of course watching the Dallas Cowboys on Thanksgiving. Also, use to play a football game of our own. Most of all just slowing down and enjoying time with family.
What is your favorite memory of me?
One, is when you innocently (already artistic) carved your name on the bumper of my new sports car. Always had to be drawing something. Also, I spent years teaching martial arts, I would get home late to find notes on the door. One in particular (still in my wallet), “Daddy, I can’t go to sleep. Can I sleep with you? Love Sara.”
What is your greatest regret?
Wow! This one is a little tuff! There are times I have been a complete selfish jerk!!! I will always remember those times. I do not want to come across as evasive, but I really try to hold on to the promise of Christ’s blood covering us rather than living with regret. Satan wants us to live with regret and view ourselves as worthless. God wants us to hold on to his promise. Not an excuse to continue to be a complete selfish jerk, but out of humility accepting God’s promise and committing to serve him in our lives.
What were your hopes and dreams as a child?
My family! My life started with no family and then I was adopted by an abusive family. About five years later authorities took me away, which was the first of several steps of becoming a Fry (My family!) For sure, a blessing!
What would you like to see change in the world over the next 10 years?
For things to slow down a little. We have so much technology to make us more efficient, yet we seem to work more and more.
What was the most rebellious thing you did as a young person?
Can think of one or two. One, my parents went out for the evening and hired a sitter for the evening. I unplugged all clocks (hid others, not plugged in) in the house. About two hours after my bedtime she figured it out. She chased me around the house, but was not fast enough to catch me. Then she started throwing things at me and ended up impaling a hanger in my arm. For some reason, that was her last night as a sitter.
What can you remember about your first kiss?
Figure it was around second grade. Went over to a friend’s house following church. His neighbor dropped by to hang out. For some reason she brought up the subject of kissing and we tried it out. Figure it lasted a hundredth of second and we went back to riding bikes.
How did you choose your career and what was your favorite part about it?
Think it chose me more than I chose my career. I have always been interested in law enforcement, just had no idea it would be behind a desk. In most cases people/companies want to take actions that fall into the parameters of the law. Sometimes they just need a little direction.
When they think about their careers, what do you want your children to focus on?
People are likely to have multiple diverse careers. It is good to stick with one for a while to give it a chance, but it does not have to be a decision for life. Have some fun with it! Money is nice, but it is more important (spending 40 to 80 hours a week) to overall (not every day will be perfect) enjoy your career. As you progress in your career, keep a humble attitude and remember that no task is below you. No matter how minimal a job or task may seem, always give 100% effort. When possible, help those around achieve success. Lead by action, not by words. Work at everything as if you are working for the Lord! Balance is important, a career is temporary, family is permanent (spend time with family).
What are you inspired by?
Scripture: Work at everything as if you are working for the Lord!
Words shared by my father. My family adopted me at age five and my father passed when I was 16, so my time with him was a bit short. However, he put me to work around second grade (a positive experience) and took the time to teach me how to work. Some of his words:
“If you have job, go to work!”
“If you say you are going to do something, do it!”
“Nothing is beneath you, keep a humble heart!”
“Always hold the door for people around you!”
Words shared by my mom. At age five I was the size of three year old. Professionals advised my mom that I would never develop like a normal kid and most likely would never make it through high school. Do not recall the exact words, but basically she said that is not an option. Some of her words:
“Do your homework now!” ☺
“Remember who you are!”
“Don’t bite anybody (her way of saying, be nice)!”
“Serve those around you!”
From a movie (may not be the exact works, but like the message): “It is not the number times you get knocked down, it the number of times you get up! Get up!”
Make it happen!
Lead by example, not by words!
Expect more out of yourself than you expect from others!
How do I inspire you?
You have always had a sweet compassionate heart. The level of growth you have demonstrated over the last year comes to mind. As I mentioned on another question, you were pretty reserved and held your thoughts. Now, you demonstrate confidence and will speak your mind. Also, as I mentioned you are innovate and willing try new things that may be outside your comfort zone. You look for ways to make things happen rather than finding excuses. Also, now I am the father of a blogger.
I’m lucky to have many qualities from my dad. Like his long legs and blonde hair! 😉 But also his compassionate heart. I love you!
For my next Behind the Blogger post, here are the answers from my step-dad, Nayon. Sounds like Ryan but with an N.
1. Describe me in three words!
Artistic, organized, persistent
2. In what ways do you think I’m like you? And not like you?
I feel that we both can be very persistent and opinionated. We both have a love of conversation. I also feel that we both value education.
We are different in that I gravitate toward sciences and math, and you gravitate more towards art and literature. I feel like I’m more of an extrovert and you are more of an introvert.
3. Is there anything that you wish had been different between us―or that you would still like to change?
I wish that we could be closer and could talk more one on one.
4. What three things do you think of the most each day?
Lisa(my wife), my kids, and work.
5. What is the weirdest thing you have ever eaten?
Fried chicken feet.
6. What is your all time favorite food?
Chilean sea bass.
7. Who is the cook between you and your significant other?
It used to be me, but now it is Lisa.
8. What is a funny habit that you have?
I’m kind of OCD about having “fur-free” socks. I don’t like the feeling of a hair ball in my shoes! So, living with a dog that sheds all the time, I spend a lot of time using a lint roller to carefully remove the dog hair from my socks.
9. What is the craziest way someone has pronounced your name?
10. What is your favorite breed of dog? If you don’t have a favorite breed, describe the characteristics of your ideal dog (or cat)!
11. Who would play each of your family members in a movie or TV show about your lives?
Me – Ricky Ricardo
Mom – Lucille Ball
Sara – Marsha from the Brady Bunch
Anthony – Greg from the Brady Bunch
Adam – Bobby from the Brady Bunch
Michael – Peter from the Brady Bunch
12. What’s the best vacation you’ve ever been on?
My honeymoon in Jamaica.
13. What is your proudest accomplishment?
Hitting under 3:30 in a marathon.
14. What is your most embarrassing memory?
I went to a wedding and when I went to the restroom, I walked into the women’s restroom without realizing it, and when I looked up, I was surrounded by giggling women.
15. What is your favorite family tradition?
Making Thanksgiving dinner.
16. What is your favorite memory of me?
It was really cute (but a little weird), when you first met me how you would hiss at me like a cat when I would get close to your mom.
17. What is your greatest regret?
Not extending grace more freely.
18. What were your hopes and dreams as a child?
I hoped and dreamed to be an astronaut.
19. What would you like to see change in the world over the next 10 years?
I’d love to see people less “connected” (not have a screen in front of their faces all of the time), which I think prevents us from building relationships with each other. Going back to the point when people on a bus has no device and you can actually strike up a conversation with people again, or to just sit and think creatively.
20. What was the most rebellious thing you did as a young person?
When I was in grade school, we a bunch of water balloons and hid in the bushes and threw them at cars as they went by.
21. What can you remember about your first kiss?
I remember being really nervous and practicing for it.
22. How did you choose your career and what was your favorite part about it?
I liked building things and loved electronics, so it was natural for me to go into electrical engineering. What I like about it is I get to build things that are useful and are used by everyone.
23. As a father and step-dad, when they think about their careers, what do you want your children to focus on?
Doing something that brings them joy.
24. What are you inspired by?
Nature, in that you get to experience God’s creation. Also, the human spirit — when I hear stories of ordinary people doing extraordinary things or overcoming adversity.
25. How do I inspire you?
I’m inspired by your drive and persistence in doing something that you are truly passionate about, and with your ability to set, organize, and achieve your goals.
Ohhh, wish I didn’t have to put the hissing story on the internet. Oh well, I was always an odd one. But! I was just a kid, not a teenager or anything.
So, it’s finally the end of the Spring 2016 Semester. I figured it was about time to go over my goal results with you guys. So here goes.
Put energy into my friendships. Schedule at least one hangout time a week.
This has made all the difference in the world. Making time with friends a priority, has built an awesome support system for me. Success.
Be hydrated! By the end of the semester, be drinking 64oz of water per day. Preferably before the end of the semester.
Really really bad at this one…
Write and post at least twice a week on Sara Strives.
Most weeks. Success.
Make more As than Bs.
Unfortunately, I wasn’t successful this time around. I let myself get lazy as the semester was finishing. I made 2 As and 3 Bs.
Follow a study schedule to increase productivity and increase goals.
I found the study schedule to be too constricting for me. I’ve just been working quickly and working as soon as I can instead of putting it off. I will likely try a less specific schedule next semester because I have 3 online classes that I’m taking.
Eat vegan, or at least vegetarian for most meals. One to three cheat meals per week. This is primarily for health reasons which is why I am allowing myself “cheat” meals.
This hasn’t worked as well as I hoped, mostly because of availability. The vegan cafeteria is all the way on the other side of campus and closes at 7pm which is when I usually get hungry for dinner because I eat lunch at 2.
Find a study spot that isn’t my dorm.
I was using the time I’m at work to do homework, but I’m finding I don’t have the motivation to do that right now. I should probably find a new space. I didn’t end up finding a new space…
Put 10% of income into savings.
I didn’t end up doing this towards the end of the semester.
Get rid of excess stuff for a tidier and less stressful room.
This has been great. I feel like I’ve cut down quite a bit. Success.
Take a minimum of 10 minutes of quiet/prayer/bible reading time 5 days a week.
I haven’t done very well with this one. I let myself get swept up in the busyness of school and work. If anyone has suggestions for making sure I make time for this, let me know. I did make quiet time for myself, not much time in the Word though. Half success.
Find a way to take lecture notes that works for me.
I think I’ve done fine with this. I made a B on one test and an A on another. Success.
Make my bed every morning. Again, for a tidier and less stressful room.
This hasn’t been happening and it makes my room stressful. I’ve been oversleeping a lot. I want to get back into this. For the majority of the semester, success.
Read one fun book!
I haven’t really been working on this very much. But I have a book started. I haven’t finished it, but I ended up buying a different book the last week of school that I am very excited to read. Half success.
Submit my degree plan.
I submitted my degree plan and have gone to all my meetings. I now have my official degree plan in hand! Success.
Find a cleaning schedule, whether alone or with a roommate!
I have been cleaning on Sundays mostly. It’s a nice quiet time to get ready for the week. Success.
Ultimately, I didn’t do as well as I wanted, but I learned that it’s okay not to meet goals sometimes. Especially when a class might be more difficult than you expected. Or a diet doesn’t work for you. How did your goals turn out? Anything you would do differently next time around?